What It Feels Like To Find Your Forever Person In Your 20s

Girl with her forever person
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If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you get to skip most of the bullshit of modern dating. You don’t have to sign up for dating apps and swipe through profiles. You don’t have to spend years getting ghosted or deciphering mixed signals from near-strangers. You don’t have to go through half of the things that your single friends complain about whenever you meet up. You get to fast forward through the shitty parts of love and skip straight to your happily ever after.

If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you might have moments where you feel like you are missing out because your friends keep telling exciting stories about their first kisses and office flirting and one-night stands. But then you’ll remember that you get to go home to someone who would do anything for you every single night. You remember that you aren’t really missing out on anything.

If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you have someone to help you navigate adulthood. You have someone to help you develop into the person you were destined to become. You don’t have to go straight from living with your parents to living on your own, because you have a teammate who is always there for you. You always have someone by your side.

If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you are going to go through milestones together. Graduation. Getting your first real job. Buying your first real place. You are going to spend some of the most life-changing years of your life together. You are going to see each other grow.

If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you can picture your future better than you ever have before. You know who you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so you have already discussed where you want to live and how many children you want to have. You have your life planned out more thoroughly than you ever thought possible.

If you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you can’t expect everyone to be happy for you. Some people will doubt that your relationship will last forever because you are so young and have a whole life ahead of you and shouldn’t settle down with the first person you find. Some people will think that you’re making a mistake when you move in together or get engaged or become pregnant. Some people will warn you about how you are going to regret your choices soon.

When you are lucky enough to find your forever person in your 20s, you have to ignore everyone else’s opinions, ignore their judgements, and listen to your heart. If you are happy, that is the only thing that matters. If you truly believe you have found the person you are going to spend forever alongside, then you can never forget how fortunate you are. TC mark

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