The Other Side: Confessions of A Side Piece

Erick Marroquín

Studies show that approximately 30 to 60 percent of both men and women cheat on their spouses or significant others, however the reasons may differ between genders. Most men cheat because lack of feeling desired, lust for variety, and my personal favorite boredom. Women cheat due to neglect from their significant others and/or continually feeling disappointment in their relationships. Regardless, cheating does not excuse someone from their wrongful behavior but rather provides an escape from the monotonous routine of their daily lives.

Here are few confessions from side pieces everyone woman should know:

1. SHE PROBABLY NEVER PLANNED ON BEING ONE:

There are a few women out there who do make a career goal to be a man’s side piece due to the financial benefits, but for some women who have been in long-term relationships or marriages they just so happen to find themselves in an unexpected situation. Years of feeling neglected from their spouse and significant others leave many women to feel undesired; combined with feeling depleted from the everyday routine of family and household business matters, some women begin to yearn for the passion she once felt in the beginning of her relationship. The problem is, your spouse starts to feel more like a roommate than a lover. Thus, the perfect recipe to seek attention from other external sources.

2. THEY ARE NOT ALL NEEDY:

Not all side pieces are dependent on their lovers for financial support or seek gifts in exchange for their time. She can be financially stable in her career and in many cases looking for other ways to improve her life, as well as others around her. This is contrast from the wife who has lost her sense of self and independence over the years. She knows that too much of a good thing is not good. For example, if you’re favorite food pizza and someone offers you three large meat lovers all at one time, your appetite for your favorite meal would slowly decline. You may even push the plate away. Her strategy is to never give herself away by never giving him too much. And because she is financially independent she doesn’t need him for rent money etc.

3. THEY ARE NOT ALL SINGLE OR UNATTACHED:

Due to financial constraints and inconvenience of filing a divorce or separation, not all side pieces are single. Most are content in their relationships and may even come home to treat their spouses with a lot more care and respect because they’ve found a way to no longer feel trapped or deflated. Hence, their escape with their lovers is a temporary solution to their long-term problems. Additionally, note that she has her own family and has no plan in replacing you. She is his escape and fantasy and wives are subjugated to deal with him, his laundry, his needs, etc.

4. SHE DOES HER BEST TO KEEP HERSELF UP:

She is determined to keep that fire burning. And what this breaks down to is keeping her body healthy and beautiful. Caveat, not all side pieces have outstanding physiques, but she knows that men like variety. Therefore, she goes to gym and watches her carb and sugar intake, not for him, but for the mere fact that she wants to continue to feel desired by all men, not just yours.

5. SHE KEEPS HER MYSTERY:

She doesn’t have to see him every day and every night. She staggers her schedule and disappears without notice. She does it intentionally to keep the fire burning and passion between them. Remember, a relationship is either an old boring marriage or passionate love affair. She doesn’t always answer his texts right away, so he never fully has access to her all the time. Thus, making their time together even more intense.

6. SHE KNOWS ABOUT YOU, SHE KNOWS ALL ABOUT YOU:

You must understand that he confides to her about everything from his marriage to stress at work. She knows about your bad habits, his pet peeves about you, and that he will never leave you. She also knows about how you are very critical of him. She represents his sanctuary where he isn’t judge or criticized for being human. You represent security and stability in his life. And if she is in a relationship she leans on him for advice and support.

7. SHE’S NOT ALWAYS ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

Part of the mystery is him not being able to keep tabs on her every move. This means that if she does have social media they may not always be friends and if they are they try to keep their likes and comments at a minimum (like none at all). She will however from time to time check on his to see what he’s up to never like or comment. This is also for her protection and to keep you at bay.

8. SHE HAS A LIFE!:

What I mean by that? I mean she has a life she is completely passionate about. She has a passion that wakes her up in the morning and keeps her up at night. Her passion only adds to her appeal because he knows that amongst being in competition with other men, he is in competition with her passion. For example, if she loves to travel she could be looking and searching for her next epic bucket list moment. And one day that epic bucket list moment could lead to a full-time career where she no longer has time for him. Or she could be passionate about animals. She is a multi-faceted woman who does not put herself out there all at once.

9. SHE’S NOT TOO EMOTIONAL:

She is not fully invested in him, thus her need to become emotional does not always come into play. If she is already in a relationship, those emotions are reserved for husband or significant other. She will never say, “I love you,” the most he would get out of her is “I miss you.” Why, you ask? Because the minute she expresses her emotional attachment to him paired with the words, “I love you.” She knows that the affair is over and he leaves for good.

10. SHE’S NOT AFRAID TO BE SEXY:

One of the most common reasons why men have side pieces is the sexual benefits. After a couple of years with the same partner sex starts to become a chore. The things that wifey used to do in the very beginning are now sparse and monotonous. He makes her feel sexy, therefore she rewards him by catering to his primal needs. I know this sounds scandalous but it is the truth. If you’re sex life starts to feel like a chore and he is always initiating it then he’s going to feel like less of a man.

If you are wife/girlfriend who is dealing with the other woman don’t be a victim. Understand your self-worth and begin the process of creating the best version of yourself. Remember she knows who you are and all about you. She compares herself to you, but so if you are someone who is beautiful, intelligent, and resilient, her world will start to crumble. TC mark

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