Ah, therapy. When people hear the word, there are definitely some stereotypes that come up. That you have to be “crazy” to do therapy. That you need to have a specific problem—one of your parents left as a child, you have a drinking problem, your spouse just cheated on you, etc. If there is one thing that I know about all humans in the world, it’s that we all have issues. Whether it be big or small, every single one of us is messed up in one way or another.
It doesn’t have to be as intense as the problems listed above, but it can be areas of your life that need some improvement. Here’s my personal issue: I people please. Why? I don’t know. How do I stop? I don’t know. And this is where therapy comes in.
Therapy isn’t just for people who have some type of big life event, transition, problem or trauma going on. It’s for every single person in the world who decides that they want to be a better version of themselves. I can promise you that 99% of the population has some part of themselves that they could improve upon. If you are that 1% that has it all figured out, congratulations! That’s amazing! I can guarantee you they probably went to therapy at some point in their life or had some type of transformative experience. You don’t just wake up one day with all your problems solved. It takes time, effort, introspection, and most of all, help.
The second you decide to get help from someone else, your life opens up. The reason that we can’t always solve our own problems is because we are too invested in ourselves. We don’t want to admit that we have intimacy issues or use excuses to stop ourselves from success or can’t make a decision to save our lives. We don’t want to accept or even acknowledge our flaws. That’s why having a third party to tell you those issues is key. You need someone unbiased and uninvolved in your life to point out what areas you should probably take a second look at. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. What’s wrong with wanting to be a better version of yourself? Is it wrong to want to live your best life? Is it wrong to want to succeed in all areas of your life? Those all sound like pretty damn good ways to live. And therapy can help you get there.
Therapy doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means that you’re ready for change. It means you’re ready to take on a new chapter. It means that you’re ready to improve yourself, to be your best self. And that is something that I think everyone on this planet should be striving to do. Because if we’re not living up to our true potential, what’s the point?