You’re Not In Love, You’re In Love With The Idea Of Love

Here you are again, giving another chance to the person who has already hurt you so many times.

Here you are again, saying you love a person you just met a few days ago.

Here you are again, going out with the person your friends warned you about.

Here you are again, doing stupid, sweet things with someone you just met in a club.

Here you are again, thinking you are in love. Well the truth is, you are not. You are not in love. You just want someone to tell you nice things and make you feel better. You just want someone to take care of you because you can’t do it yourself. You just want someone to love you so you can boost your ego and feel pretty. You just want something to talk about with your friends. You just want someone to make you feel important because deep inside, you feel empty.

Deep inside, you know you are not really in love. You just don’t want to be alone.

If you think love is finding someone who will complete you, then you are just wasting time. You are not looking for love, you are merely going for the idea of love. You can’t love someone if you are not complete. You have to be happy with yourself before you could share happiness with another person. You can’t live with someone just because they make you feel good about yourself. You have to face the mirror and feel contented with what you see before you share your whole life with that person.

Before you go into a relationship, create yourself first. Decide what kind of person you will be. Know your flaws and weaknesses and use that knowledge to be the best person you can be.

Don’t flirt with every person that comes your way. Be choosy. Have standards and stick to these standards.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve just because everyone around you is in a relationship.

Don’t go for the 2nd best option just because you think the right person for you will not come.

Don’t find and wait for the right person, be the right person. You have to show the people around you that you are a person worth loving, worth marrying and worth spending forever with.

If you chose someone just because you think they’re going to fill the gap in your life, you should have filled your own, No matter how many relationships you get into, no matter how many people flirt with you, in the end, you’ll just feel you are forever alone and in love with the idea of being in love.