When we become obsessed or infatuated with someone, we build them up in our minds and don’t even realize how far from reality we’ve strayed. It’s especially easy to do this if someone seems unsure about us, or if they reject us. We assume it’s because they are a rare and valuable gem and it makes us want them even more. When you obsess over someone, you are chasing a dream, not an actual person. You are chasing the fantasy of what it will be like if you manage to get this exceptional being to like you back. — Sabrina Bendory