A Letter From A Homophobic

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Dear homosexual person who is destined to find the cure for cancer,
Dear future Nobel price of Peace who also happens to be transgender,
Dear lesbian who is writing the literary classic that will speak for an entire generation,

Today, I am here to tell you that you will have to abandon your laboratory, your fight for peace, and your writing because I, an insignificant and useless being that does absolutely nothing for the world, insist that love can only exist if it is between a cisgender man and a cisgender woman, thus, you will not be able to marry that one person who inspires you and propels you to change the world for the better. Inspiring you to be a better person and to be a catalyst for positive change cannot be romantic love. The only romantic love that exists is full of heteronormativity, even if it inspired no one, even if it is abusing and limiting. If your love is love, then it is less than the sacred union between a man and a woman, or at least that is the message I am sending when I do not allow you to marry your beloved: Your love belongs to an inferior category.

I do not support your adopting children, either. Honestly, I prefer those children to be in dire circumstances of eternal hopelessness, of a less than nurturing environment, I prefer them to be victims of violence and to be living on the streets. At least, next time I see a children looking absolutely desperate for some food and love begging for money on the streets, I will make myself feel better by thinking that it would be so much worse for this child to be in a homosexual home that is full of sin, so sinful indeed that it has two parents catering specifically to the needs of this child!

I can be altruistic too. This is me wishing you luck when you protest for your basic rights. I am sorry, I will not change my mind. The world has to be this way. It absolutely has to deny acceptance and basic respect to people who are not heterosexual and cisgender. It absolutely has to drive many of you to suicide. People have to continue committing hate crimes against the LGBT community, it is necessary. It has to tirelessly hurt every single one of you in little and subtle ways every single day of your lives that you dare to be who you are openly.

What are the reasons for my hatred? Here, my typically articulate personality fails me, but let me tell you that the reasons for my cruelty and bigotry are very precise and valid enough to refrain you from spending valuable hours on your research, your struggle against injustice and your art just so you can protest and stand up for yourselves.

There are people out there that compare what I do to racism, and think that this form of discrimination is part of a very dark past our great grandchildren will be ashamed of, but there I see a difference. Racist people hate other people because of reasons that do not affect their own lives at all, and your sexuality affects my life. It awakens my insecurities. I simply cannot stand someone living differently from me, it is such a threat! Do not call me selfish, then, if I rob the hours and vital energy of people who are busy trying to make this world a better place for my great grandchildren only because I am an insecure brat who has to terrorize and bully everyone who dares to live and love outside the “norm” that I invented in my little and arrogant mind.

Yours faithfully,
A Homophobic (Yes, I insist on calling myself phobic, because my plain old retrograde imbecility is not such, it is fear, damn it! Understand me just as I do not make an effort to understand you at all). TC mark

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  • alexkellyoc

    Dear homophobic person,
    As a bisexual who’s more into women, a part of the LGBT community, suggest you really try to see things differently. Let me explain:
    -You can marry whoever you want, but things are changing for us (luckily) so even though the rest of the world still has this narrow-minded way of thinking, we still can marry, have kids and being able to love.
    -You may marry the person of your dreams and love them but that doesn’t mean we can’t because love doesn’t have a gender-you simply love the person, who they are, how they behave and those little gestures shown in every romantic movie you could think of.
    -You are not selfish but you remind me of my country’s Historical period of communism-communism here meant everyone being one and the same and this is something bad because we all are different not only in terms of sexual orientation, it is about talents, interests and so on…
    -I personally don’t think you hate us (I put myself into this because I am part of the LGBT world)-I believe you are afraid of the different but don’t you think change can actually be a good thing? Don’t get me wrong-I’m not telling you to turn yourself gay or at least bi, but just to let people like me be happy with who we are. Take everyone you meet as they are and they will accept you for being who you are. It’s a common thing to disagree with people but don’t let prejudices ruin the communication we all as humans search during our life.
    -Protests will gain us more and more privileges-it’s only a matter of time and despite there are a few countries that allow us to be who we are, it could be all changed in 50 years.
    -Mos of us come from “the normal” world as you’d call it, so allowing us to be who we really are wouldn’t affect anyone because you are born the way you were supposed to be born and even though you may find yourself living in “gay village” let’s say, that wouldn’t really have an effect on your character and feelings. The only thing it could do would be to prevent homophobia from an early age.

    Frankly, from all of the homo/bi phobia I’ve faced personally, you are probably the only one who’s indeed scared of us when you shouldn’t. I am a person like you are-I get up every morning, go to school/work, do what I have to do, I enjoy being with friends and I go back home and meet the person I love and greet them with a kiss. Yes, I am still quite young but that doesn’t mean I am stupid or not educated enough to see what the problem in fact is. This is the moment to apologize if my comment sounds rude-it’s not my intent at all so I would really appreciate it if you actually read this not only with your eyes but your heart and soul as well.
    Imagine your kid being gay-they get up one day and tell you “I am gay”-if in the future such thing happens, I think then you;d realize completely what my comment is all about. The kid can’t help it-it’s just how it was supposed to be and as a parent you shall make it easier for your kid if not with involvement in such protests we do but with support :) I didn’t have that when I came out and I’ve made this promise to myself: in time, no matter with who I end up with, when I have children (because even if I end up with a woman, I am having children one way or another) if my kid tells me such news (not talking only about sexual orientation now) I would be happy to know my kid had the guts to tell it all out loud and to be honest with everyone. That would mean I had done a good job as a parent :)

    Yours faithfully,
    the bisexual girl, who’s fighting for equality :)

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