Stop Defining Personal Success By Your Relationship Status

Alice Donovan Rouse
Alice Donovan Rouse

As 2017 began, and yet another guy vanished into thin air, I wondered how many more of these cycles I was going to have to endure in the New Year. Every girl who’s been single knows the cycle: find a guy, go on a few dates, feel like everything is going well, and never hear from him again. Is there a black hole filled with these guys somewhere? Or a club of guys with broken thumbs? I mean, they must be broken if he’s not texting back, right?

Wrong. If he’s not texting you back, he doesn’t want to talk to you. It’s that simple. If a guy wants to see you he will find a way to see you. He’s on vacation? He’ll Skype or Facetime. He’s busy with work? He’ll send a quick snap. He’s been going to the gym? You’ll get one of those ridiculous weight machine snaps. In a time when women are as powerful and successful as we’ve ever been, why do we continue to make excuses for these guys?

We have women leading countries and companies, running for president of the free world, and all around just #slaying, yet we berate ourselves for being unable to pique the long term interest of the modern fuckboy. Why are we still seeking validation from men? Our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers did not fight for equality so that we could send thirsty snap after thirsty snap to a guy who, quite honestly, couldn’t care less (sorry).

Stop defining your success by your relationship status.

Being single does not make you a failure. Is it hard to see everyone and their baes all over Instagram? Sure. But not having a winter baecation does not mean you’ve failed at anything; it just means that you’re not settling for someone who doesn’t respect or appreciate you. Loving yourself enough to hold out for your best bae is a sign of strength, not weakness. Make 2017 the year of not settling, leave 2016 and the fuckboys behind. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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