We are surrounded with beautiful girls. They seem to have it all: shiny long hair, skinny legs, flawless skin, etc. They have perfect bodies and faces and for ages it had been all they were asked for. Is this the kind of cliché we want ? Should a girl aim for a plastic’s idea of perfection?
I feel this is just sad because this means falling into a shallow perspective of what it is to be a girl, and I don’t want my goals to be all about physical appearance. I want to be more and being called beautiful at the same time.
I met a girl the other day. She was a nice, very smiling blonde and I must say it was funny to spend some time with her. Then she began to hang out with me and my friends and we got to know more about her. I want to underline that she was always super kind and of course this is the most important thing, but I can’t help but think she was unconditionally dumb. This may seem harsh but it is true: she was always out of the topic, trying to get into the conversation but having nothing relevant to say. Sometimes she would just smile and let go, for she seemed to have absolutely no idea of what to say.
When we asked her what she was studying, she blushed and admitted that she failed high school. We thought it wasn’t her fault, she wasn’t made for the educational system. But the truth is, we were a little shocked because none of us has experienced that kind of failure. We were raised in a privileged neighborhood and we all got into good colleges so I made myself think about others that didn’t have our luck. I will not blame her for being stupid. This is absolutely not her fault, and one is always less intelligent than another person. The reason why I wan’t to shake her is because she seems to think she is enough. I forgot to mention but that girl is beautiful. She has the type of body that attracts men when she walks in the street and I know she knows that. And of course this is not bad, and it can make her feel pretty and appreciated. But the thing is she doesn’t push herself to do more. When she dropped out of school, she didn’t want to learn a special job, she didn’t want to work or master an activity.
And I find it so irritating because I feel like a woman should never rest on her beauty. Beauty fades, it goes away in a snap of fingers.Beauty is not shiny hair and a slim body because they are mostly due to luck and good genes. A woman should be eager to have it all, and by all I mean physical beauty as well as inside beauty. It feels so different when you meet someone and actually think « oh gosh, she / he has something more to tell the world ». Of course, like every other girl, I want to be called beautiful and feeling good in my body. But I also want to be respected. I want to learn about the world, about the people. I want to study, to ask questions, to discover new things and new places. I want to have an opinion and to build my own knowledge.
My dad always told me that I should work hard enough so I would never be financially dependent on a man. He said that women who used their only body were trapped but those who had knowledge and strength were the ones who could always be free. Therefore I want to be strong, independent. I don’t want to lie on anybody and being called stupid and shallow. There is so much more to learn, in every field, not just prestigious ones.
I feel like passionate people are always the most interesting for they know something more and they can share it. Women should always reach for more than their own physical appearance. And as a matter of fact that works as well for men. So I want people to dream for more and never take beauty for granted. Intelligence should be rewarded just as much as a good body. This is why I expect so much more from the world and somehow think intelligence will always be the best kind of beautiful.