For All The Single Girls Out There, It’s Time We Stop Feeling Sorry for Ourselves

 Luke Porter
Luke Porter

On a good day it only crosses your mind 5 times. On a bad day, it consumes you. You swipe right while you’re in the bathroom at work. Asking yourself based on one picture “is this the guy I am going to spend the rest of my life with?” It seems pretty ridiculous that people base your overall worth on one picture. Well, I am so much more than one picture. Dating in 2017 is worse than any Kevin James film.

I have been alone for most of my life and have grown accustomed to the lifestyle. Being single is nice, and has its perks. There is no one else to worry about, no gifts to buy, no annoying family members to be nice to and make fake conversation with. You are free to be. If you want to stay out all night or stay in all night, that’s cool. You are the boss. But don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship has its perks too, but that’s not for us.

We are not meant to be in a relationship right now. For all the single girls out there, its time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves. We are not single, we are INDEPENDENT. The reason we are still independent is BECAUSE WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE!

I don’t refer to myself as single, rather independent. There’s not a single person out there we have found yet who can handle us. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It is an honor. Every time you start feeling sorry for yourself STOP!

There’s a guy out there for you, but you haven’t crossed paths yet.

Think about how peanut butter and chocolate did just fine all alone before becoming Reese’s in 1928. They both are stellar, independent individuals on their own. I have been known to eat peanut butter straight out of the jar, not once thinking about chocolate.

Consider your life a trip to the grocery store. The guy for you might be in aisle 12, but you are too busy deciding to buy blueberry or vanilla yogurt on the other side of the store. I like to believe there is someone out there who loves John Cena, Twizzlers and his family as much as I do, but I am not obsessed with finding them. I know our paths will cross eventually, but until then I am just independently shopping around taking my time. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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