5 Healthy Ways To Avoid Being Taken For Granted

Taken for granted (n); to give little attention to or to underestimate the value of, to fail to appreciate (source: urbandictionary.com) Meh. This is like a shorter term for “the-shittiest-feeling-ever-why-did-this-happen-am-I-not-good-enough?”

1. Remember your worth

More like, remember you’re not something bought from a garage sale. You’re the rarest piece of jewelry. You’re not junk, and you’re not to be thrown and pushed around just like that. When some shithead treats you like trash, leave. Do not neglect the most significant kind of love that is self-love. Someone out there’s dying just to have you.

2. Seek respect, not attention

When a guy/girl knows you just want their attention, chances are, they only give it to you when they have nothing else to do or when they’re bored. You do not want to be someone’s pastime, right? Sure, attention is one of the most essential things in a relationship but one always comes better when with respect.

3. Limit your availability

Give yourself and your partner space. Give yourselves time to miss each other. You shouldn’t forget what it feels like to be by yourself. They won’t always be available and neither are you – that thing is alright, you both should be okay with that. A healthy relationship still works even if you haven’t seen each other in two days.

4. Give your partner some challenge

When they know you’re easy to get or you’ll always come running after them, they lose the sense of giving you importance. There wouldn’t be any thrill or excitement in that and that’s when a relationship starts to wither.

5. It’s okay to say NO sometimes

If at the time you don’t feel like going to a party, you don’t feel like going out, you don’t feel like doing something, then don’t. You are entitled to your own choices and decisions, and as I have said, respect should be present – your partner should understand that. You are not required to say YES all the freaking time, that’s why it is completely okay. It’s also just a matter of compromise between you and your significant other. Thought Catalog Logo Mark


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