Every girl goes through a period of transition at one time or another. You’ve got emotions pulling you one way, logic pulling you another way, societal expectations tugging at yet another. Just stop. Breathe, and keep telling yourself these 6 things…
1. Trust yourself.
Regardless of the decisions you are being faced with, know and trust yourself. Do you really want to keep working that job that isn’t right for you? Is that friend actually holding you back from becoming the woman you want to be? Take the time to really ask, “Is this what I want? Is this what’s important to me?” If the answer is no, then you know what to do. Trust that you’re strong enough and smart enough to make the choice that’s right for you.
2. Know your strength.
Mentally, emotionally and physically, you should always know your strength. Only you can know how to handle things people say to you, how you push yourself and the weight you can carry (both literally and metaphorically). Challenging yourself is extremely important. However, pushing the limits and keeping your distance from the limits are both equally as important too. If you know you get stressed easily, stray from worrying situations. If you’re complacent with where you’re at, test yourself with a new task. It’s all about knowing your strength, and teetering on the limits of your comfort zone.
3. Take care of your soul.
Don’t let yourself, or others, push your wants and needs aside. Some people need to meditate or do yoga, others need to write, sketch or listen to music. If you know it takes a long hike every weekend to keep your head on straight, then do it. Being self-aware is a critical part of personal growth. Whatever you need to re-connect with yourself and re-evaluate what makes you happy should be a top priority. Period.
4. Don’t be afraid to make difficult decisions.
There are a LOT of situations that merit difficult choices. Leaving unhealthy relationships, pushing yourself to find that perfect job, finally convincing yourself to travel for six months or even coming to terms with the fact that you know you could be living a fuller life. All of these start with a choice. Don’t let fear of the unknown keep you from flourishing and becoming the incredible woman you know you truly are.
5. You are more amazing than most people can appreciate.
Unfortunately, there will be many times when you are the only person who knows all of the wonderful things you’ve accomplished. Sure, maybe you had a 4.3 GPA throughout college, had 6 internships, climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro, have traveled to 27 countries, wake up at 5:30 a.m. every day to work out and are a Queen at keeping in touch with all of your friends. Frankly, most people will never have the luxury of fully appreciating your accomplishments, getting to understand your complex personality or truly seeing what your heart’s intentions are. Be your own cheerleader. Sometimes you can’t wait for someone to applaud you for how far you’ve come. Reflect on your own journey and appreciate how absolutely fantastic you are.
6. Don’t ever lose your sense of adventure.
There are plenty of people out there who will never understand your adventurous nature. They won’t understand your need for exploration, your lust for new cultures or your love for the exotic. When you tell them you want to run away and feel the air of a new place, they look at you sideways and ask, “Yeah, but don’t you want to work? Don’t you want a family?” Some people will never share those desires, and may even convince you to abandon your traveling aspirations. Don’t let other peoples’ opinions throw a wet towel over your excitement. Dream it, plan it, do it. Don’t ever, ever lose your sense of adventure. Not for anyone.