It’s Okay To Feel Lost In Your 20s

Your 20s are probably one of the most trying times in your life. Fresh out of college, you feel like the world is in the palm of your hands and that this is really where life begins. However this new sense of freedom and control also comes with bearing the weight of the reality that, this is really where life begins. After the elated feeling of succeeding the world of the academe, you’re suddenly smack dab in the middle of what feels like quarter-life crisis. “What now?” Suddenly, you don’t have it all figured out anymore. Suddenly, you need to start making choices for your future. Suddenly, you don’t know what to do with the life you were so excited to begin in the first place. And that’s okay.

This transition in you life is probably the most difficult phase you will need to endure. Your family starts to expect more from you, and you literally feel the weight of bigger responsibilities on your shoulders. As much as you try to enjoy the interlude of ending school and getting a job, you can’t help but remember that this break your on is not summer vacation anymore. It’s up to you to decide when it ends and when your new chapter begins. And then it hits you; the hardest part really IS how to start. And as much as you try to motivate yourself into in taking that first step, you can’t help but feel scared. Let’s face it, this is the real world we’re talking about and it’ll be hard to take rejections lightly. You beat yourself up over situations that haven’t even happened that it just gets more and more difficult to even try. You succumb to your fears and insecurities and just end up lost in limbo. And that’s okay.

You don’t need to have it all figured out yet. You’re starting your life – a life that is for you, playing out according to your decisions and actions. It’s okay to be a little scared, somewhat worried, and a tad bit insecure. But don’t let it defeat you. We all make mistakes. We’re all bound to fail at times. What matters is that you always have the will to keep going and look up. If something’s not happening for you now, don’t get discouraged so easily. Don’t let scenarios you’ve imagined in your head control who you are and what you want to be in the present. Stop wasting hours and hours of your every day overthinking about what could go wrong, and start focusing and all the things that could go right. If you’re going to be lost in this stage of your life, choose to be lost in all the dreams you have for yourself.

You’re young. You have so much more ahead of you, and the journey surely won’t be easy. But who wants to live an easy life? What’s there to learn from that? You’re going to make mistakes, but that’s fixable. There are days that you’ll be laughing out loud, and days that you’ll be crying hard. And that’s okay. There’ll be days that you’re going to feel so proud of the person you’ve become, and days that your insecurities are going to get the best of you. And that’s okay. You’re in your 20s, facing life head on, and feeling a little lost in the process. And that’s okay. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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