The worst sex comes out of nowhere. Like when a guy brings up sex before he’s even kissed you. Or he’s completely prosaic about it. Even when I’m not in a romantic relationship with the guy I’m having sex with, we’re still having romantic sex — not “making love” but genuinely liking the person and having a human moment with them — because that’s what gets me off and all the rules of an NSA relationship should stop when you’re actually in bed together. You should still like each other and express that, you should still have fun and not act like strangers, that doesn’t mean you’re in love with each other and dying to get married and have babies. That’s not the only reason people have romantic sex.