20. I did ignore a lot of red flags early on in the relationship.
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He didn’t have one nice thing to say about any of his exes… and there were quite a few of them.
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He belittled me when we argued.
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He was never wrong.
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He was cruel when he was angry, often using my worst insecurities as ammunition to hurt me.
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He was jealous of his friends’ accomplishments rather than happy for them.
And so on and so forth… there were so many red flags, and I just trucked on, because I had incredibly low self esteem and self worth, and he didn’t help that.
Last I heard from a friend, the ex is in therapy… which is great. I truly hope that he can work through the anger and depression that caused him to act out so abusively, and that he can find peace. I wish him the best.
As for me, I’m finally happy, and in a strong, healthy relationship for the first time in my life. I don’t regret my marriage, because I learned a lot from those years, and like with all my experiences, I use the tools I acquired during that time to forge ahead.
