20. I did ignore a lot of red flags early on in the relationship.
He didn’t have one nice thing to say about any of his exes… and there were quite a few of them.
He belittled me when we argued.
He was never wrong.
He was cruel when he was angry, often using my worst insecurities as ammunition to hurt me.
He was jealous of his friends’ accomplishments rather than happy for them.
And so on and so forth… there were so many red flags, and I just trucked on, because I had incredibly low self esteem and self worth, and he didn’t help that.
Last I heard from a friend, the ex is in therapy… which is great. I truly hope that he can work through the anger and depression that caused him to act out so abusively, and that he can find peace. I wish him the best.
As for me, I’m finally happy, and in a strong, healthy relationship for the first time in my life. I don’t regret my marriage, because I learned a lot from those years, and like with all my experiences, I use the tools I acquired during that time to forge ahead.