29. “Never marry a perfectionist.”
I heard this several times and figured they were wrong. They were not wrong.
30. The most obvious red flag that I ignored was the pre-wedding planning. Prior to being engaged my desires were acknowledged and provided for or promised.
As we began planning the wedding, my opinion was not relevant unless it was to say “Yes, I agree with you”. I was either being difficult, I was ignored, or we were made for each other!
This behavior continued through the marriage. She would ask my advice, if I didn’t care I was an asshole and she would do what she wanted. If I said no, I was an asshole and she would do what she wanted. If I said Yes – I at least wasn’t an asshole.
Compromise needs to work both ways.