50 Men Reveal What Turns Them On Now That They're Older And More Mature

50 Men Reveal What Turns Them On Now That They’re Older And More Mature

Thought Catalog
By Thought Catalog
Jernej Graj
Some men from Ask Reddit reveal what turns them on now that never turned them on before.
Thought Catalog
By Thought Catalog
Jernej Graj

1. Intelligence.

  • 10 years ago the hot chick was hot.

  • Now the chick who has her life together, a solid grasp of personal finance, and a plan for the future is hot.

I mean yes looks still matter, but if you’re well informed and passionate about an issue, I find it attractive.

2. Sanity. I used to have the baffling concept that crazy chicks were more fun.

3. Ambition. I assumed as a dumb 18 year old that everyone had drive and ambition. Turns out, that was false. 

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.