41. Try to keep a balance between remembering that you can’t trust people to tell you the truth at first, and not cutting off opportunities because you’re too closed off to have any fun.
As a chick on the e-dating/app dating scene, going into things being honest that I wanted long-term relationships that would be serious with the proper time was a very good way to get used by guys who said they wanted the same thing but then ditched to get back on the app and find something new and shiny after about a week or two. So give things time and remember that fuckboys have every incentive to lie about their intentions and use you, so you shouldn’t trust people until you’ve gotten a bit of time under your belt to know that they’re worthy of it. But the flip side is that you can’t go around treating everybody as though they’re all liars who are going to use you, because people don’t deserve that unless they’ve earned it. It’s a fine line to walk and not always easy to tell. You’ll get your feelings hurt sometimes thinking someone has earned your trust and then they turn out to be untrustworthy, but you have to pick yourself up and brush yourself off and move along. When you find the right one, all of the shit you waded through will have been worth it.