40. Don’t just ask the father, ask both. This is especially true if they are divorced. My fiancee’s parents are divorced but have a working relationship. I was not nervous to ask my fiancee’s mother because I knew she was going to be over the moon excited. I was nervous to ask her father. How did it go? I didn’t have to ask. I called him one day and he goes, “I know why you are calling and before you say anything, I want you to know I am okay with it but we need to get her mother involved as well.
I setup a dinner meeting to meet both of them and asked the question. He went first and stated he was fine with it. She, on the other hand, went on about how happy she was. Everyone is different, ask both parents.
41. I told my (future) wife I was going out for beers with the guys but actually went to her folks house. I didn’t ask permission but more for their blessing. We talked and laughed and cried, it was great. After I proposed, I told my wife that I had lied about beers to meet with her Mom and Dad, she thought it was so sweet she started crying. We’ve been together for nearly 10 years and married for 2.