Guys have a reputation of being these isolated, cold creatures who shun compassion and lack sensitivity, yet I don’t know why. That’s a lie; I know exactly why. There are plenty of guys out there who give the lot of us a bad name — particularly those who lie and cheat. Ladies, you should be familiar with this in that there are the crop of girls who are “crazy,” for all intents and purposes, and make the lot of you look “crazy” to all guys. Because some of these guys have sullied our reputation as men, women are skeptical when we say things; they can’t decide whether or not we’re telling them the truth or just something we think they want to hear. Well, to help clarify any confusion for you, here are some examples of when you should definitely take a man at his word:
Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.
“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino
Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.