250 People Reveal The Lesson They Learned After A Failed Relationship

We asked, and you guys answered! Below are the best responses.

191.
“Never share your family secrets…they will use it to haunt you later…”

192.
“Go slow. If someone is rushing into anything you’re not ready for, that’s a red flag.”

193.
“Sometimes, a satisfying lie can do more good than the awful truth.”

194.
“Pain never ends. It may dull it, but it never ends.”

195.
“If your husband suggests you get divorced three weeks after the wedding, TAKE HIM UP ON IT!”

196.
“That people can only change if they want to, not because you want them to.”

197.
“You have to love yourself more.”

198.
“Don’t give too much save something for yourself.”

199.
“Trust that your personal deal-breakers are valid and not to waste your time with someone that sets off the deal-breaker flags.”

200.
“Life goes on and love can still be found.”

201.
“That I don’t need her to be complete.”

202.
“That I’m just not very good at it, and I should probably just get some cats.”

203.
“To listen to my gut feelings next time!!!!”

204.
“Always remember that you can’t make homes in people.”

205.
“Be as good to yourself as you want to be to them.”

206.
“I am the only person responsible for my happiness.”

207.
“Letting go!…don’t be so selfish holding on to something that no longer works for you.”

208.
“Don’t let him change you ever. Love yourself.”

209.
“You can’t fix anyone. You can help them. Maybe. But have no expectations.”

210.
“That it’s not healthy being codependent. I’m good just as I am.”

211.
“Some exes deserve to be forgiven… Others deserve to be forgotten.”

212.
“You cannot expect a fairytale ending with someone who is treating you unfairly from the start.”

213.
“Never lose yourself or change to make another happy. You will end up alone.”

214.
“You’ll never be too much when you’re with the right person. Love makes time.”

215.
“Don’t rely your happiness on anything but yourself.”

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Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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