1. Comparing them to other kids.
“Comparing your kids to other kids.”
2. Comparing them to their siblings.
“Comparing siblings to each other.
My brother was always the problem child and I was the ‘smart’ one. My parents told us this all the time. AT first it made me feel good to be called the better kid- but then I realized that my brother resented me immensely, I couldn’t keep up with the impossible standards my parents set, it was difficult trying to be the perfect daughter all the time, and every minor thing I did wrong was treated like I murdered someone.
It made my brother insecure and unhappy, and I suspect that’s a reason why he got into drugs and doesn’t speak to me anymore. It made me a panicky, anxious perfectionist.
Please, don’t compare your kids to one another. It sucks for both the ‘bad’ kid and the ‘good’ one.”
3. ‘When I was your age…’
“‘When I was your age.’…”
4. ‘Because I said so.’
“Saying ‘because I said so.’ My dad and mom did this to me and I hated it. So now with my daughter, she knows exactly why I say no to something.”
5. ‘Because I’m the parent.’
“Using ‘because I’m the parent’ as reasoning for absolutely anything and everything. My mom always pulled that line, and I never respected when she would discipline me because I couldn’t understand why. Parents – PLEASE use logical reasoning with your children. If you’re going to punish them (or make any choice that will ultimately effect your child’s life) you better damn well have a reason why”