1. Weird animal noises
More weird than creepy but when I was in middle school I was sitting down outside and this girl came and sat down next to me, she faced me and started making animal noises, like barking, meowing, mooing the whole package, after a while she opened her backpack, wrote her number on a small piece of paper, folded it, put it on her lips, and then made weird humming noises.
She did this cute puppy look while the folded piece of paper was still on her lips, I hesitated taking it but I took it nonetheless.
2. Seriously, don’t bark
The ex of a friend of mine used to bark at people when we were in the car. It got so bad we had to lock the windows when she was with us. That should have been a big red flag but they stayed together till she cheated on him but that’s a whole different story.
3. Forcing a guy to have sex with you
When we were freshmen in college my suitemates and I befriended some junior transfer students in our dorm, who invited us to off-campus parties where we were always the only freshmen there. Much fun was had. One time though one of the girls whose apartment we were at tried to haul my friend, who was very very drunk, upstairs. He didn’t want to go, and at the foot of the stairs he was leaning back against her pulling him by the wrist with both hands.
It was the kind of thing, if I saw it today, I would intervene immediately, but that was 1993 and not one of us had the internal vocabulary to process it. A woman could be raped by a man, a man could be raped by another man, but we didn’t even have a concept of a woman raping a man.
Something deep inside me was unsettled, but I couldn’t process it. I was a little drunk myself, which wasn’t helping me make any big leaps in ethical thinking. I just nervously laughed like my other friends. She relented, but I’m pretty sure it was because people were laughing and it was starting to be humiliating how hard he was struggling to not go upstairs with her. We continued to hang out with that crowd, but I kept my distance from her from then on.