28. Change things you don’t like about your appearance.
“Where you can change or draw attention away from things you don’t like about your appearance. Take a before and after photo so you can feel good about taking control.
This will help you to build a more confident and enjoyable personality to be around. That confidence will also help you to accept the things you can’t change.
Here’s my personal examples:
I’ve got bad teeth, a flat head, a doughy jaw line, and a crooked nose.
Thick glasses draw attention to my eyes and away from my nose. The right haircut and beard give a more aesthetically pleasing look to the shape of my face and head.
Haven’t done anything about the teeth yet but the confidence I’ve gained from unfucking these other traits of mine makes me more confident. I spent time in front of a mirror smiling, as if for a photo, and I’m totally cool with it now. I accept it and look less like I’m uncomfortable and hiding something when I smile (whether it be naturally or for a photo).
Obviously, personality goes a long way as well but being comfortable in your own skin is a very important first step.”
29. Learn to cook & be self-sufficient.
“Groom properly (every day, routine).
Buy well-fitting clothes & smart shoes.
Get measured by a tailor (hire a tux) and invest in 1 or 2 well-fitting suits (blue, black, grey).
Look after your body.
Learn to cook & be self-sufficient.
Those are the easy ones. I spent years in retail / hospitality so I have developed good conversation and sales skills, I’m outgoing and good at engaging people, I’m confident and try to be funny (but not too hard). I laugh at myself, I am brutally honest and always open but most importantly I’m secure in myself, I don’t hide behind anything.
I’m not rich but I am fiscally responsible, I’m average looking, I have alopecia on my face so can’t grow a beard or stubble. Obesity and heart disease are common in my family but I’ve definitely done better than someone with my looks should have!”
30. If you’re interesting, it doesn’t matter what you look like.
“Be interesting. Have things to talk about. What people who moan and complain on the internet about not attracting girls seem to universally fail to understand is that looks are only a small piece of the puzzle. If you’re interesting, it doesn’t matter what you look like. I promise you that.”