21. Keep looking at her.
“I just kept looking at her…
It actually worked…
Idk why she’s with me…”
22. Keep positive and practice good hygiene.
“I don’t consider myself handsome at all but I have been happily married for 25 years. I think the best thing is just to keep positive and good hygiene. There’s always someone for everyone.”
23. Go to social events, join clubs, use Tinder and online dating.
“Go to social events, join clubs, use Tinder and online dating, etc. While meeting people, you will meet single women and you will click with one of them eventually. Even if the people you meet aren’t single women, they might be able to introduce you to some.
It really doesn’t matter how you look; somewhere out there is somebody who finds your looks sufficient without any change and you just have to find them.”
24. Get yourself some swagger.
“Ugly guy here who does really well with the ladies. My big moment was realizing if I focus on external validation I’m always going to lose. So I focused inward, built my skills, talents, abilities (including my ability to socialize and talking to women—I just reframed it in my head from ‘oh no these people/women are rejecting me’ to ‘huh. Guess I should have been more x or y in that interaction, let’s try again with someone else!’)
After a year or so I sudden I realized my sense of self-worth had increased so much to the extent where validation from other people seemed to pale in comparison to my own sense of self-worth. And all of a sudden I realized I had swagger. And girls really responded to it. In a way being ugly made it even better. It’s like they thought ‘this guy’s ugly how on earth is he so confident and relaxed?! What does he know that I don’t?’”