1. Accept and embrace yourself – YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
That beautiful black dress, heels and make-up can make you feel a little sexier, but the sexiest thing about you doesn’t have a color or a shape. You can’t touch it, but you sure can feel it… its self-confidence.
Being comfortable with who you are, is ultimately what’s behind this new movement that redefines sexy from appearance to inner strength. It’s no longer about what others think of you or trying to live up to a man’s idea or media’s image of what beauty is, it’s what you think of yourself, that makes you sexy.
2. Confidence is personal strength
Beauty is far beyond skin deep. There are “beautiful” women who think negatively about their appearance, and women who, some might say, are not as “beautiful,” yet they exude confidence and self-acceptance. That inner-strength to believe in who you are, own your body and keep in your mind a positive view of who you are is the strength you have to build to be sexy.
That mental toughness is only built through believing your own hype. If you don’t create hype for yourself, you have nothing to believe in but only what others think of you. Change that today by coming up with your own self-confident mantra.
3. Do not rely on others to feel good about yourself
As an insecure woman, you rely on others and put a lot of expectations on others, to validate you and make you feel good. It is absolutely essential for you to feel good about yourself and know yourself, FIRST – before you have wonderful deserving relationships. It is how you feel about yourself, and how you carry yourself is ultimately more important than how you look (Although I do think by taking care of yourself by wearing your own style of make-up fills the pretty side of your soul.) Many people find other qualities more important than looks. Other qualities like confidence and self-esteem! Trying to please others or live up to others’ expectations is not sexy. To build strength to define your own beauty, consider your body and looks in your own definition of sexy.
4. Your mind is a powerful tool – use it!
It isn’t until you accept yourself and change your mindset that you can truly start moving in the right direction, and positive change will follow. The strength to accept yourself comes from knowing your own importance. The body you want is only possible through the body you’ve got. Loving it, accepting it and treating your whole body with love, from head to toe, is essential to being sexy. So embrace the face and body you’ve got, in all its sexy glory, so you can move towards a positive outlook on life and confident persona.
5. Be each others’ biggest fan
Kill the fat talk (and skinny talk, too!) Too many times there’s an “us against them” struggle between “overweight” and “skinny” people. This shouldn’t be. The put-downs, stares and judgments need to stop! Accepting an individual is the best way to accept your own body and is the first step to stop comparing yourself to others. Empowering other women starts a domino effect. The more you do it, the more you empower yourself.
The most beautiful people I know are the people that are beautiful from within. They love themselves and the world around them. Absolute confidence comes from within us, not from outside influences – and THAT is a beautiful thing.