10 Signs You’re Dating A Real Man (Who’s A Keeper)

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A real man can be hard to snag in today’s hustle and bustle, so how can you tell if you’re dating one? Number 7 is key!

Newsflash: dating is hard. Especially when you are in the dreaded spin-cycle, dating immature men. But when you finally snap out of this phase and understand the benefits which come from dating a genuine man, nothing else will do. Ever. Here are ten surefire signs your dating life is on the right track, as you’ve snagged a keeper.

1. He apologizes.

A man is human, but he also admits his wrongdoings and learns from mistakes. When a man holds himself accountable for his actions and apologizes to you, said actions show his integrity and confidence about himself and the relationship.

2. He resolves conflict rather than finger-points.

Rather than pointing fingers during conflict, a man chooses to work constructively with you and resolve any issues for the sake of the relationship. There is no gigantic blue foam finger-pointing with this man.

3. He pursues other passions (aside from you).

Rather than pursue you all the time, a man shows passion for things outside his relationship. Think of it this way: if he rolls out of bed at 3 am so that he can catch the old, gothic, 14th century architecture in the perfect lighting for a tri-pod shot, he is passionate about things, has friends, and a schedule that might not always revolve around you. He clearly is confident in where the relationship stands.

4. He is decisive in his actions.

Although he wears the pants in the relationship (snagged by you) he is assertive in his decision making. Whether he is deciding on a Saturday night date spot or what groceries to buy, he knows what he wants. Kiss the dreaded “What do you want to do?” conversation goodbye!

5. He shows his softer side (with joy).

A man isn’t afraid to show his sensitive side. He is in control of his emotions and clearly expresses his feelings of joy and sadness. He understands revealing such vulnerability speaks to his level of emotional intelligence.

Along the same lines, a man radiates self-confidence and accepts all of himself. When he demonstrates self-worth inward and outward, he projects this quality to those around him.

6. His actions follow his words.

A man’s actions are a glimpse into his thoughts and are often a good judge of integrity. He will be there when he says he will. You can count on him in all situations. There is nothing more sexy and soothing than when his actions match his words. It just shouts “KEEPER!”

7. He doesn’t get jealous.

A man knows the green-eyed monster exists, but he understands that you chose him over all the other men out there. Enough said.

8. He has empathy for you.

Experiencing your entire range of feelings and your emotional state is commonplace for your man. He shows a knack for understanding your perspective and feeling which takes your relationship to a new level.

9. He shows respect to you (and others).

Whether he is greeting your parents, besties, or just hanging out with you, a man demonstrates respect towards all parties. While he might not have a lot in common with said parties, he will still make a good-faith effort to get to know them because they are a large part of your life.

10. He acts on love.

A man lets you know where the relationship stands. He doesn’t play games. Period. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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