One thing I realized: Relationships are the ONLY important thing in the world.
I can only do the best I can right now and then surrender the results. Once you release the bowling ball, your job is done.
Instant gratification is something we all chase. It’s what makes us feel good in the moment, but it’s only instant. It’s not long lasting. It falls apart quickly and it leaves us alone again.
Sometimes I’m emailing about work at midnight. That’s how habits start. They creep in when my guard is down, when I’m not connected to anything I love.
Saying ‘no’ is honouring yourself, your time, and your worth. If you keep letting people taken an arm when you just offered a hand, eventually you’ll have nothing left for yourself.
Believe me when I say that there is a huge difference between being desired and being valued. The guy who calls you at midnight every Friday night like clockwork does not value you, so stop answering.
I don’t care about the brand of your clothes and I don’t care about the value of your house. Don’t tell me any of that because those aren’t the things I care about in life. Tell me about the times you felt inadequate. Tell me about your first love and how things ended; tell me about that heartbreak.
What we don’t need, is someone to save us. Only you can save you.
Acquire career capital. And leverage it. This is how you get autonomy in the workplace.
It breaks my heart to hear people say that they’re “not smart” just because they’re not a straight-A student.