Your need to have the last word.
“Displaced anxiety” is a Freudian concept; it refers to what happens when people project or deflect their issues onto something irrelevant – something safer.
Your patterns became habits because of repetition. In order to rewire your brain and break up with all those unconscious thoughts that have driven you in the past, you must repeat new behavior.
No Pressure. Just Write.
Our internal world always mirrors our external world. We are essentially walking around vomiting our unconscious shit on other people and then getting mad at them.
Save first, then figure out how to get by on what’s left. Most people operate in the opposite order.
In the words of Drake: the power of the mind is not a joke.
Although people instinctively believe they are making their own choices, in today’s trigger-laden environment, the opposite is more true. They are unconsciously and reactively operating in a world that was creating for them, not in a world that was created by them.
The more enjoyable and relatable you find La La Land, the whiter you are. And if you ever meet anybody who tells you it’s their favorite movie? Yeah, it’s pretty much a lock they secretly want you and everybody who looks like you ethnically cleansed.
Personal development and self-improvement becomes the vehicle towards lasting change, if you are prepared to do the inner work.