When you have built a life for yourself, an identity that you like a lot and are in a place that you love, changing is (understandably) one of the last things on your mind. But life is full of unexpected turns.
I have started pretending that I don’t notice. I never wanted to play pretend. But now I am forced to play a game that I never wanted to play for the sake of guarding what is left of my dignity when it comes to you.
Sometimes “sexplorers” (especially the men) think that because they don’t feel an emotional connection to the other person, what they’re doing doesn’t count as cheating and their partner shouldn’t really care about it.
You both liked each other and it was clear, but he wouldn’t commit and kept saying it was timing. Now, you know that that was bullshit too. You were angry, absolutely. He was wrong for you, yes. You knew that you deserve better, no doubt about it. It has been time to move on, of course. But your feet weren’t moving. You haven’t left.
Fall in love with the hours and the time spent actually producing and doing. Don’t fantasize about what life will be like when you reach the goal, but maintain the sobriety of process and action.
Believing in someone is difficult. It can be as difficult as allowing oneself to fall in love.
What’s really interesting is that while people use bottling and brooding with good intentions, we know from the research that it tends not to work. When people bottle, they are pushing aside their emotions, and their partner can often feel that they aren’t present—that they aren’t being authentic or vulnerable in the relationship.
With a second chance to get things right, the golf player attempts to avoid repeating the mistakes that caused their first stroke to get them in trouble.
They actually wait. They aren’t secretly looking for someone to love them and acting they don’t care, they genuinely like their lives. The love the people in it and are not seeking validation from someone or anyone at all.
I said it before and I’m not afraid to say it again – I’ll wait for you.