At long last, I feel like I’m finally getting some clarity on things that have been confusing me my whole life, but it has been quite a journey getting here.
As a survivor of sexual assault and thus a person who already feels unsafe in their body, especially in public places, street harassment is triggering to me. A reminder that my body is not my own in rape culture, that other people believe themselves entitled to my body and my time.
This is a people problem because it impacts relationships. It impacts our daughters. It impacts you and your relationships and you quality of life.
We need to improve our understanding of the long term effects of sexual assault, and offer continued support to survivors.
I saw myself in the hallways as texts messages and whispers made her feel so alone.
Forgiving does not mean I’ll forget the past or give up my human rights. Instead, forgiveness is an active way for me as a sexual assault survivor to stand up for myself and preserve my future.
The more I work with men to address their porn use, the more I recognize how strongly it parallels emotional eating behaviors in women.
Sometimes it’s actually super funny to watch acquaintances squirming to apologize after assuming we’re sisters, or to watch Mystery Method rejects stammer, searching for a cool-sounding answer to “we’re actually on a date with each other right now.”
I am usually the first person to say stand up and fight your demons or your enemies, but there are some perfectly good reasons sometimes to run away from situations. The reason why running away can sometimes be a good thing comes down to removing yourself from toxic situations and instances where you feel like your ability to consent is being stifled and your safety is in danger.
Here’s the sad fact: for women, it’s not a matter of if this will happen. It’s only a matter of when this will happen.