Every victim of assault or rape has acted in ways that do not align with the image of the “perfect victim.” Yet this is often irrelevant when it comes to rape – a crime in which the focus of interrogation should be the perpetrator, but is usually the victim.
Modesty shouldn’t be a prerequisite for respect and it shouldn’t be the sole indicator of self-respect. The level of modesty a female victim is perceived to have in her clothing choices is irrelevant – she is not to blame for the actions of her perpetrators.
24 years would go by before I ever told anyone about that night.
Let’s say this loud, so even the people in the back can hear us. RAPE. IS. NOT. FUNNY.
How does a sexual assailant permit themselves that behavior when they exist in the same society we all exist in? Didn’t they know it was wrong? The answer is hinted at in how they word their denials.
This is the true life story of what happened to me. I changed the gender of the protagonist in an effort to convey the absurdity and sexism of the comments my piece on rape received. The ONLY person with even a shred of responsibility for rape is the rapist.
“I said no, she kept going, it hurt.”
Sexual assault rates are incredibly high at our university, yet the administration allows known rapists to remain on campus.
People of any age and gender should be taught to speak up when they’re uncomfortable – even against respected figures such as authorities and elders. They should be heard, not shut down.
I am calling on all sorority advisors, house moms, chapter presidents… to create and hold space within your sororities for the “Me Too” conversations. STOP allowing a culture of “drunken mishaps” to sweep a member’s experience of rape under the table.