Never, ever ask the victim questions like, “What were you wearing?” I often tell people that if I walk down the street naked, it is not an invitation to have sex with me and it is certainly not consent.
I was assaulted and it still affects me. It’s going to still affect her. It will affect you. Just remember that she’s going to need you more than she wants to tell you, this might have been an event she had to carry by herself.
Moreover, rape is commonly identified as amongst the most difficult crimes to effectively investigate and prosecute.
I am someone so strong, so powerful. A survivor.
Rapists aren’t always monsters governed by uncontrollable urges and malicious intentions; they’re much more likely to be an individual that you know and probably care about.
I will take back the security you stole, the confidence you stole. I will take back the innocence you robbed me of, the womanhood you robbed me of.
I have a tendency to spend time with guys who just don’t seem to get it. Who don’t understand why I grab my closest girl friend when I need to use the bathroom at the club. Who don’t understand why I call them late at night when I’m walking through dark streets alone.
“When SWAT pulled her out, she had completed multiple circumcisions on herself with the scissors, completely cut her nipples off, and had sodomized herself multiple times with multiple steak knives.”
I hope that those who will read this will remember that rapists can be anywhere and anyone. I hope they remember that many monsters are better disguised in plain light than in the shadows.
The rape shattered how I perceived the world around me: the illusion of safety, my relationship to men and worst of all, my sense of self just as I was traversing the tricky waters of what it means to be a woman in this world. It felt like my wings had been clipped just as I was starting to take off.