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I wanted to pretend that the entire incident had not happened, and even though I thought about it constantly, I kept up my outwards appearances and no one was the wiser.

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I am writing to tell you that I understand your pain. I understand how it feels to have someone you don’t even know overpower you, and use your body like it is worthless.

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No means no. Silence does not mean yes. Only an enthusiastic yes, means yes. If you have to break someone’s spirit down in order to get them to have sex with I’m sorry to tell you, but you are a rapist.

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I strongly believe that it’s up to men to change how we raise this generation of boys into manhood. Today, society is challenging what “manhood” really means more and more, and our sons are getting mixed messages.

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This report is the first of its kind in many respects. Although the survey sample was relatively small, it indicates levels of abuse never before imagined by mainstream society.

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Nobody tells you that your PTSD symptoms will be scoffed at. Your boundaries will be called “arbitrary” and you will be accused of “wielding sex as a weapon” and “putting yourself on a pedestal.”

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Last spring, UNC-Chapel Hill student Landen Gambill filed a charge against her ex-boyfriend via the school’s internal systems alleging that he raped her.