They engage in what I like to call “coded language.”
Anyone can be a target for an emotional predator – simply being human makes you vulnerable to these toxic types. That being said, it is important to acknowledge the traits that a narcissist looks for in a target so that victims can better protect themselves and cut ties earlier on, especially when they become aware that they’re being exploited.
Gaslighting is essentially psychological warfare, causing the victims of malignant narcissists to continually question their own reality.
You never have to compete with anyone – and a healthy partner would never want anyone who they truly love and cherish to feel like they’re competing with anybody anyway.
I love myself. Truly and always, I love myself. And for the first time in a long time, I am putting myself first.
They may romanticize the relationship and re-idealize you, taking back all their hurtful words and actions in one fell swoop (or cleverly constructed text message).
They want to exert power over someone stronger than them, because someone stronger is always a threat to their shady ways.
Look for these warning signs and spare yourself the suffering—if the guy you’re falling in love with exhibits many of these traits, you should run, not walk, away from him.
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
Starting life over without you and our toxic relationship, taught me that I can actually manage to survive by myself.