While ads in American magazines might glamourize thin women who frequent tanning salons, the adulation of both of these traits is specific to culture.
When we base our attraction on pictures, on bodies, on superficial or lust-filled aspects of people, we chase relationships that aren’t meaningful. We chalk up people to images. We objectify instead of learn who someone is.
Maybe, of all the characteristics and descriptions of the world, I want something that reflects my spirit, my heart, my tenacity and lust for life.
Jealousy turns people into assholes, and our current social climate feeds off the inherent need to not only be part of the tribe and to belong, but also to dominate and control it.
“If you’re ugly, then some men will automatically dislike you. If you’re attractive, then some women will automatically dislike you.”
Okay, all of the 1D boys are pretty darn fine, but while Harry is the “my left elbow is prettier than your whole face” kind of hot, Niall is the “your older brother’s best friend” kind of hot.
This is your lucky day, because I have compiled 11 extremely easy steps that, if taken, will lead to you becoming much more attractive then you are right now.
“The first thing I notice in someone is their smile, but also I think one of the main most attractive things to me is someone who has wit/intelligence. I am a sucker for a person who speaks with conviction.”
Turn that insecurity into your own vitality, not envy nor self-pity.
What evolutionary psychology explains is possibly more about attraction than about love. Although in many instances, attraction may very well be the spark that first ignites the possibility for a deeper emotion to develop later down the road, the fact stands that mere attraction is not the same as love.