The wisest and most loving piece of advice I was ever told was this: “You are always in choice.”
Being ordered to do good is a contradiction. It violates free will. Doesn’t obligation bleed morality?
It is not enough for the parents to just provide their children with roof over their heads or stability in the household.
It wasn’t until I was half naked in your bed that I realized I didn’t want to have sex with you.
At some point, I learned something important: that being ill could dissolve the uncompromising infrastructure of your young life like so many bad dreams. Instantaneously, sympathy! Others to do for you what normally you were left alone to manage! And most importantly, liberty from obligation.