When you ask yourself if you’ve fought hard enough, say no.
Saying ‘no’ is honouring yourself, your time, and your worth. If you keep letting people taken an arm when you just offered a hand, eventually you’ll have nothing left for yourself.
Fast-forward to today and “no” is on my list of my top ten favorite things to say without any selfish connotation tied along to it.
Delete their messages, hell- delete their number, unfollow them on Instagram and unfriend them on Facebook. You don’t want any reminders that are going to send you spiralling again, and you certainly do not want the temptation of messaging them.
Hearing the word NO means that you’re doing something right.
The hurt we experience with rejection often comes because we have an expectation of how things are going to turn out and we are left disappointed. This reaction is all very natural.
And that’s how you find yourself in places you don’t want to be, stuck doing stuff you don’t want to do, frustrated and resentful, overloaded and impatient, distracted and confused.
Giving yourself that chance to satisfy your own needs, whether that is through work, rest or play, is always going to help you feel better. Feeling better is going to help you help others better than you ever did before.
Today I packed up, changed all my plans, and got on the train. I watched people kiss in Grand Central. I’m watching the leaves. I’m watching the water.