To every genuinely nice guy, I ask you not to change.
The problem with nice guys is that they think all women are supposed to like them because they do nice things. Some women will not be attracted to you no matter what you do.
And it’s worse because he was so nice. It’s worse because he still cared. It’s worse because he called me to break it off instead of texting me or ghosting me. It’s worse because he has a heart. It’s worse because he cried when he told me he was done.
There is a very fine line between sweet and creepy and you “nice guys” like to play jump rope with it.
“Nice guys do not finish last” means you don’t have to take a shortcut. You don’t have to quit. Don’t give up on love. Don’t change who you are.
You have seriously considered breaking up with him — but then you felt like an asshole because he’s so nice and technically hasn’t done anything to warrant a breakup. Technically he’s a great guy.
I should have yelled and cursed. I should have called you names. I should have told you to go to hell.
I’ve had friends that called me a guy straight out of a Nicholas Sparks book. But I don’t feel it. I’ve never had that happy ending those books always have. I’m a nice guy.
A relationship is all about give and take but in the end—you both deserve to have the opportunity to pursue your dreams. You should be encouraging each other, not resenting each other for feeling held back.