Dating is an enlivening and fulfilling experience that, even in itself, is worthy of some serious enthusiasm. Approach it like the adventure it is and allow yourself to feel the excitement of anticipation. Let go of any ‘rules’ you have surrounding that mythical perfect guy and date guys with traits you may not have considered before. Make dating a priority and, like everything else in life, you’ll soon reap the rewards of a proactive approach.
She wants the games to end. She wants things to be simple again. She wants to be able to be herself around you like she used to do so easily. She wants to move on from this complicated limbo of almost’s and what if’s. She wants to know that you feel the same because she has absolutely no idea if you truly do anymore.
It wasn’t a fairytale, a love story, or even a relationship that was desired. She wanted a chance, even though she knew that it was something impossible.
The best thing you can do is to set your standards as to how you believe you should be treated, set the bar and stick to it, no matter how much ‘chemistry’ there is.
So where am I now? Back to the dating apps. I have re-downloaded Tinder and Bumble. I now avoid yuppie CPA’s with no sense of humor. And I’m working through my issues as best as I can (a.k.a. consuming lots of Trader Joes wine and desperately perusing self-help blogs!).
Treat the first date like an interview.
When I looked into your eyes, suddenly all other girls didn’t matter anymore; everything went silent and the only thing louder than your voice that evening was the pounding of my heart.
Attraction is important but attraction without effort will get you nowhere.
I never felt like I was settling with you. I never felt like it was less than what I deserved.