Telling you lies like you can’t leave. What that translates to is I can’t let you leave I need you.
When working with individuals who are displaying symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, the thing that I notice most of all is that the person feels so torn because they don’t understand what has happened to them.
Abuse is when they get pissed off at you, say something unacceptable, and then claim it’s your fault.
My list of excuses was impressive, and used often. The excuses ranged from ‘he suffers from severe anxiety to ‘this is his first relationship so he doesn’t really know how it works.’
Imagine being told repeatedly that you’re the reason you can’t be with the person you love, by the person you love, and yet they won’t leave you alone, no matter how much you beg them to.
This is a hard pill to swallow, but they aren’t missing you. They aren’t realizing the good they had. They were in love with the attention you gave them, and not you.