Telling you lies like you can’t leave. What that translates to is I can’t let you leave I need you.
When working with individuals who are displaying symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, the thing that I notice most of all is that the person feels so torn because they don’t understand what has happened to them.
Abuse is when they get pissed off at you, say something unacceptable, and then claim it’s your fault.
I wish it wasn’t pain that had to shape you into someone so beautiful. But sometimes that’s how it works. Sometimes the most beautiful people are the ones who have seen a lot of ugly things.
I’ll never forget the words you said to me. “What happened to you, you used to love me.”
I began to choose myself. That’s what happened to me.
You’ll be angry I called you an abuser, but it’s what you are.
My list of excuses was impressive, and used often. The excuses ranged from ‘he suffers from severe anxiety to ‘this is his first relationship so he doesn’t really know how it works.’
Imagine being told repeatedly that you’re the reason you can’t be with the person you love, by the person you love, and yet they won’t leave you alone, no matter how much you beg them to.
This is a hard pill to swallow, but they aren’t missing you. They aren’t realizing the good they had. They were in love with the attention you gave them, and not you.
Do you react to important people in your life by ignoring them completely and not acknowledging their presence?