Ladies, better plan the wedding yourselves.
As adults, we crave to be seen in our rawness. To courageously allow another into our inner emotional world. But being vulnerable is no easy task. It’s much easier to blame or attack our partners for the problems in our relationship, rather than express how we are feeling.
Don’t get married for the wrong reasons and don’t settle for cohabitation when you want more. If you make the right decision here – and it’s a big decision – you’ll spare yourself untold amounts of conflict and regret in life.
“Just love them, seriously. Tell them you love them. Take their face in your hands and say the words.”
Like it or not, primary breadwinner privilege exists and is often the crux of the power balance issue. Wielding it constructively for either spouse is a matter of fair and honest negotiation.
The person who comes after cannot and will not replace the one we lost. To imply that is insulting to the widow, it’s insulting to the new love and it’s insulting to the love who was lost.
The One will feel like home. Their arms will welcome you into their heart, and their love will heal your brokenness and give you hope, and you’ll never want to let go.
Real marriage comes long after the wedding, in the midst of actual day-to-day living. It comes on a Wednesday in front of television re-runs when no one feels like moving to actually cook dinner and that’s not a bad thing.
In marriage, either your spouse is #1, or you’re doing it wrong.
Yes, I am still carrying my father’s surname, even after 10 years of our marriage. I am happily married. I proudly introduce myself with my maiden name without any stigma.