Even with all the information we have about how to spot a liar, the other major question remains: why do people lie in the first place?
We all want to get our needs met, but manipulators use underhanded methods. Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics.
According to researcher Dr. Gottesman, there are “four men of the apocalypse” or four communication styles in a relationship that can predict its inevitable demise. These are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
Shifting responsibility is something narcissists enjoy the most. In case something goes wrong in a relationship, they won’t admit that it was their fault but they will say that it was all your fault.
If you don’t do what they want you to you, they threaten you. They will take things away. They will do anything to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. and if you don’t play by there rules you’ll pay for it.
These scars do not diminish my worth. These scars are not unattractive, deal-breaking pieces of baggage. These scars do not make me a bad partner. These scars are not a reason to stay away.
She might look at herself and hold onto to a lot of baggage from her past but when she meets the right person they teach her other people’s problems aren’t hers to carry so heavy and she never deserved to be their emotional punching bag.
“You’re the most anxious person I have ever dated.”
I have started pretending that I don’t notice. I never wanted to play pretend. But now I am forced to play a game that I never wanted to play for the sake of guarding what is left of my dignity when it comes to you.