Victims are conditioned to seek their abusers for comfort – a form of medicine that is simultaneously the source of poison.
If you don’t do what they want you to you, they threaten you. They will take things away. They will do anything to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. and if you don’t play by there rules you’ll pay for it.
They try to make you feel bad for doing what you want.
They engage in what I like to call “coded language.”
The art of the subtle sabotage, much like the art of the pity ploy, is used to stage an environment of psychological warfare. It’s a set of manipulations within the abuse cycle that leads to an elaborate game of chess – if chess were an epic, elaborate game of mindf*ckery that is.
Lovers leave. Significant others screw up. This person wasn’t supposed to. This person was supposed to be your safe place.
Mental and emotional abuse is also an abuse. It is in no way less painful than the other.
“You’re the most anxious person I have ever dated.”
You can’t manipulate someone into wanting you. You can’t manipulate someone into appreciating you even if you’re great — even if you’re the best.
they told me, you know.
people talk and cities
do not keep secrets
for very long.