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If someone doesn’t have the moral capacity to treat you with basic respect or act with integrity, it is doubtful they have changed overnight for someone else.

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He seems too good to be true. A narcissist is a con artist and when he finds his “target” he morphs into his “Good Self” and becomes the epitome of the perfect lover/partner.

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Remember that you deserve a relationship that builds you up, that makes you feel safe, and that brings you happiness and warmth. A person who is narcissistic cannot give this to you.

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Examine your fears about what you think might happen if you stopped trying to make your partner happy.

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He doesn’t care about your feelings, thoughts or ideas.

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They don’t “do” feelings. They claim to be above them, more “evolved” than people who wear their hearts on their sleeve.

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HE DIDN’T BLACK OUT. EVERYTHING HE DID WAS INTENTIONAL. HE WAS THIRTY SIX. I WAS FOURTEEN. HE KNEW. HE KNEW. HE KNOWS.

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We start to feel obsessed with “fixing” what is broken in order to feel better, and the more our efforts are squashed, the more persistent we become.

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Narcissists want you to believe that even your best efforts are not good enough. The reason they do this is so they can keep you scurrying about for their approval, but never quite receiving it.

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In reality, the narcissist wants nothing but constant validation, and someone who is always willing to give it is a perfect match.