The problem is not how trauma survivors choose to cope. The problem is society not choosing to aid trauma survivors and finding ways to either blame them and protect their abusers. If only we open our minds to the possibilities of how different trauma speaks through each individual only then we will move forward as a society and stop violence and harassment.
There is so much beauty in where you come from. So much that it terrifies some of the people in this foreign land because they do not come from there.
In light of the Las Vegas massacre, we need to talk about how we talk about mass shootings.
Acts of Service:
Don’t ever convince yourself that your love language isn’t romantic. Picking up flowers or bringing home chocolates is easy – but all of those gross, tedious, or boring things someone does for you? That is true, unshakeable, unaffected love.
Acts Of Service: When it comes down to it, you’re too nice. You go out of your way to help people before they even ask and end up getting walked over.
If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts the gift they really want and need is to be shown how much they mean to you in a measurable way.
Acts of Service: You are the opposite of empty words or broken promises – you are the person who does what they say they’re going to do. People trust you with their gut, and they know you are so real.
Physical touch: Instead of cuddling with you to fall asleep, they roll over to their own side of the bed. They let go of your hand soon after you reach over to hold it.
If your love language is receiving gifts, it’s pretty simple to identify whether or not you’re with the wrong person. The wrong person for you is prone to forgetting to send flowers to your job on significant dates like birthdays and anniversaries. They are not the type to shell out a lot (or a little) money on “just because it’s Tuesday” gifts and those types of gestures are important to you.
Quality Time: You’re the mom who shows up.