We all get so caught up in acting specific ways and imitating behavior of successful relationships, but copying what we think is right will only lead to failure.
You were created with a barrier made of steel and you are so much stronger than most will ever be.
“How much of myself is the stitching together of different parts of different people? Is such a separation between myself and others even possible?”
Anyone can be a target for an emotional predator – simply being human makes you vulnerable to these toxic types. That being said, it is important to acknowledge the traits that a narcissist looks for in a target so that victims can better protect themselves and cut ties earlier on, especially when they become aware that they’re being exploited.
Healing is not a competition in any way, shape or form. You do not need to be in any hurry because someone else who survived the same trauma as you has healed faster than you. Your trauma journey is individual to you.
Have you ever been bullied or excluded by a group? Taunted by a narcissistic individual who enlisted the help of others to further undermine you? You may have been the victim of a narcissistic “conspiracy.”
It’s a huge societal expectation to get married and have babies, enough so that all the folks in happy, committed, long term relationships get asked continually when they’ll be taking that trip down the aisle.
They don’t allow their feelings to be masked or ignored.
The art of the subtle sabotage, much like the art of the pity ploy, is used to stage an environment of psychological warfare. It’s a set of manipulations within the abuse cycle that leads to an elaborate game of chess – if chess were an epic, elaborate game of mindf*ckery that is.
I choose to forgive and wish them well. Otherwise, I’d be imprisoned by negative thoughts and emotions, bound by answers to questions that I may never get.