You can pretend that it doesn’t bother you, but it’s so much easier to lie to the people around you than it is to lie to yourself. So let me ask you something, if you are so busy covering up and avoiding your flaws and insecurities, why do you think it’s okay to pinpoint other people’s?
We think we have to be women and men who are tough on the outside and soft on the inside, who act one way but think another. We believe this makes us attractive, to be complicated. Makes us worth the chase, worth the discovery of what’s beneath the layers. But maybe we really don’t need the layers at all.