I have never felt like a woman, but neither have a lot of masculine women who love women. I’ve felt the joy of being called a man, but so have a lot of queer women as well. I have felt the pain of burning up in the Georgian sun because I didn’t want my family to see my breasts and tell me I was becoming a young lady.
Reflecting on how we perform our gender can help us better understand what we do and why we do it.
Longevity privilege, crying privilege, emotional privilege, weight privilege, hair privilege, clothing privilege, sex work privilege, laziness privilege…should we continue?
It makes little sense why women would compete over who looks good, but not compete over education or work achievements. By valuing appearance more than other attributes, the only message that is given off is that women are only there to be pretty.
“We hurt, too. We want to be told nice things, too.”
The rise of gender-neutral toilets is a concerted effort to provide transgender and non-binary individuals with a more comfortable and safe experience when going to the toilet. With many facing the choice of “which bathroom am I less likely to be harassed in?” the approach seems both logical and sensible. However the debate from both sides, and everywhere in-between, has led to controversy both outside and within the trans community.
We’ve all played those games and it’s the reason we’re now in this sorry situation. A lot of fuckboy situations happen because two people were unable to voice their needs and desire and so everyone just went along with it instead.
“Society in general doesn’t give a fuck about men’s problems at all, not even a little.”