Gaslighting is essentially psychological warfare, causing the victims of malignant narcissists to continually question their own reality.
Gaslighting silences people. If someone loses the ability to trust their voice they become silent.
They engage in what I like to call “coded language.”
When I was 15, I met someone who changed my life.
Why aren’t we, as consumers and members of the community, questioning that?
A manipulator is sufficient at placing the blame on anyone else besides themselves. In fact, they’re so good at it that they’ll have you almost certain that you’re the problem.
Gaslighting is behavior that is inherently manipulative. When you are the person who is being gaslighted you question everything about yourself- from your memories and judgments to your own core values. You are thrown off balance and begin to sleepwalk through life. You’re emotionally beaten down.
Lovers leave. Significant others screw up. This person wasn’t supposed to. This person was supposed to be your safe place.
When working with individuals who are displaying symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, the thing that I notice most of all is that the person feels so torn because they don’t understand what has happened to them.
If you are in a relationship where he doesn’t want his recent ex-girlfriend to know about your existence, leave.