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What is the point in hating someone when it won’t change a damn thing about your current situation?

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There is a love that can exist for a friend even after the pain of heartbreak.

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You see him break down in tears and completely forget about your own tears.

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I am here to tell you that it is time you forgive. Forgive yourself for not being enough.

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I would give you another chance if you stopped playing the victim, if you stopped blaming other people for your own mistakes. If you showed me you’ve grown into someone mature, someone who takes ownership over their actions, someone who understands they are flawed and knows they have the power to fix themselves.

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At the end of the day, it is not about how they feel or how badly they treated you. It is about how you want to treat yourself and what mindset you choose to remain in.

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If you’ve been hard on yourself, I hold the space for you to forgive. If you have grudges, I hold the space for you to forgive.

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Everyone keeps telling me to forgive you. They tell me it will help in the healing process. They tell me it will lift a weight off my shoulders. They tell me it’s the right thing to do. 

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As a Black, dark-skinned woman, I’ve had to repeat this practice of forgiveness forcefully over my lifetime.

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I will forgive you because I deserve peace. My heart and my soul deserves peace.