You might be turned on by a fantasy of some sort — and then, not enjoy playing that fantasy out.
LEO: You cum quickest if there’s a mirror involved.
The thing is, if he’s not putting time into turning you on, you’re missing out on the sex life you deserve.
When I’m just about to cum, like literally a second away, please don’t change what you are doing. Don’t suddenly change speed or technique. Just keep doing EXACTLY what you were doing.
“The first time my wife and I had sex, she licked me clean afterwards. She hasn’t done it since.”
“That little gasp she makes the first time you slip it in.”
Let him catch you masturbating.
Cuddling doesn’t have to happen after sex. You could cuddle as foreplay. After all, there’s nothing better than feeling his hard-on rub against your butt.