They become brainwashed by people who advise that they will “lose themselves” in some capacity if they have a partner, or start building a family.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man by her side.
She’s tentative about falling, nervous about giving her heart away. A heart that’s been so well taken care of, so protected and safe.